Why does prayer sometimes feel like it’s not working?
In this message, we talk about one of the hardest parts of growing in faith – staying connected to God when prayer feels unanswered, unfinished, or unclear. More than just a spiritual checklist, prayer is meant to be a place of real connection. But what do you do when you show up honestly and still feel silence? What if prayer is working underground even when nothing looks different above the surface?
This week’s message continues our Grounded: Roots Before Fruit series and explores how real growth happens through the quiet, raw, and messy moments of prayer. Whether you’ve struggled with what to say, felt like God wasn’t listening, or just haven’t known where to start – this message is for you.
If you missed the live service or want to reflect further, you can watch the full message above anytime after. We’ve also included discussion questions to dig deeper into the message and a handout with fill-ins to guide your reflection. You can find the handout by clicking the “Download” button above. Whether you watch this on your own or share it with your small group, we hope this message encourages you.
Discussion Questions
- What are some common misconceptions people have about what prayer is supposed to look or sound like?
- Why do you think many people feel like they have to “sound spiritual” when they pray?
- How does the image of roots growing in messy soil help you reframe what spiritual growth looks like?
- When have you felt like your prayers were unanswered or met with silence, and how did you respond?
- What does it mean to you that God meets us in our honesty rather than in our performance?
- How does the promise in Romans 8:26 reshape the way you approach prayer when you feel overwhelmed?
- Why do you think God sometimes allows seasons of silence in our relationship with Him?
- What are some practical ways you can stay rooted in prayer even when it feels dry, confusing, or fruitless?
- How can your small group support one another in being more honest and less performative in prayer?
- What would it look like to shift your focus in prayer from getting answers to building connection?
